How big a problem looks to you depends on your perspective.

I just had two people I know, dealing with the EXACT same problem, just with slightly different features and trimmings....

Who responded to it in two completely different ways.

So, X:

Thank you for that....I am so proud of you, and the fact that you've taken yourself into such stride. You're looking after yourself and your OWN interests and while you'd never let anyone DOWN, you're NOT letting yourself get walked on anymore.

You're standing up and fighting for what you want, and when you decide something's bad for you, you cut it loose and move on. I'm so thankful to have someone like you, someone who changed a lot, but you kicked that change right in the ass and BECAME the change: you dictated the terms.

And Y:

I'm not disappointed in you, and the fact that you thought I WOULD be almost hurts. I wish I didn't have to find out from someone else....the knowledge of you trying to deal with this all on your own...while I'd be THRILLED if I thought you were genuinely trying to work out your own problems....just remember that I'd never judge you and I never have.

I don't know if I coulda actually help you out of this....but you've ALSO taught me a great deal about change....that letting people, or places, or situations mould you and your mind and your intentions can completely remove control from your hands.


I love you both so much, and I'm so glad to have you both in my life.

Queen Sana at 4:32 PM