I'm rarely judgemental, because, well, I'm an awesome person, but people who often say things like, "if u hurt my fren i'll fukn beat u up" seriously need to grow up. Now, I love my friends with all I have, but the fact of the matter is, they're not perfect individuals. We often say stupid things we don't mean and exaggerate in fits of righteous indignation. We've all bitched to blue heaven about people who've hurt us in some way only to discover later that a) it wasn't that bad or b) it technically was your fault. For this reason, I think it's foolish to burn a bridge with someone just because of a friends' (real or imagined) slight. I love my friends for MY reasons, not yours. Simiarly, I dislike the people I do for my own reasons. There are people who don't like me, and I'd be friendless if my friends listened to that. I therefore owe other people the same courtesy.

I'm being slightly bitchy here, but think about it. I've talked to so many people who only dislike someone because a friend does. Really, now? That can happen in kindy. In the second grade. In the fourth grade. By the 8th grade, it's tolerable but you're expected to get over it. In the 12th grade, who are you kidding? We're mature enough as individuals to not put people in boxes: nerds, losers, skanks, idiots, blacks, whites, Indians, goths, metalheads. Why then are we so willing to put people in boxes like "person who called Sarah a loser", "person who doesn't like Chelsea", "person who dated the guy that Mala broke up with"?

In addition to that, I believe firmly in fighting your own battles, because you learn from them. I also think it's unfair to gang up on a person until you know his or her side of it. I think that people who hide behind their tougher friends don't learn to stand up for themselves. If you really don't think you can handle things, by all means, seek support and comfort. But if it's just a case of a slight of sorts?

Grow some balls, talk it out, and if you can't, walk away.

Queen Sana at 7:08 PM